December 8, 2005
More wedding stuff.....
It's hard to believe that I'm getting married in about 15 hours. Yeah-- HOURS. Since we're doing it really small at the courthouse, it'll just be me and Pete, Alyssa and Judy. Alyssa is going to do our photos, and I wanted Judy there since she knows me better than pretty much anyone. Later this summer, after I'm back from Canada/IP, we'll do a small wedding with family and "immediate" friends (is that a word??), and then a huge reception with family and friends. Neither Pete nor I wanted to spend a year planning everything and the stress of everything. We wanted it simple. That's how we are. Neither of us is real comfortable with being the center of attention and the thought of having some huge, planned out wedding was rather overwhelming.
My parents are taking it all pretty well, though they still bring up the fact that they "wish they could be there" and about how I "should" have my sister there...etc. It's more a guilt trip than anything, even if they don't totally intend for it to be that way. I don't know.... I did find an outfit to wear yesterday and put it on hold. Took my mom to see it tonight, and ended up letting her pay for it. I guess at least that way she feels like she had a part in the whole thing. But even that part of it was stressful. Even for Pete.
I showed up at my mom's house after my appointment with Judy, and Alyssa was already there. I walk in and my mom starts going off about how she didn't really want Alyssa there taking pictures, and she wanted it to be just the two of us, and on and on. I felt horrible, cause Alyssa was sitting RIGHT THERE, and my mom's talking about her like she wasn't. I wanted Alyssa there, cause part of it is for the project she is doing (I'm part of her photojournalism project on eating disorders-- she just sorta follows me around through my days, on occassion) and me getting married is a big part of it. But also, for my own pictures of the wedding. I don't want an album full of posed pictures. This is MY wedding (even if it's sorta done in two parts), and it's MY decision. I told Alyssa I was totally ok with her going, and that I wanted her to be there. Whether or not she used any of the pictures in her project was up to her, but for my own purpose-- I wanted pictures from the very beginning. Shopping for the outfit, etc-- things you normally don't have pictures of in the wedding album. She'll come later as well, when I decide on a dress for this summer. I ALMOST gave in to what my mom wanted..... but... I didn't. Alyssa ended up coming with us for awhile, got some pictures, etc.
As for the rings-- we're just doing simple, matching white-gold bands now, and then the bigger rings in the summer. Again though-- something small and simple. My mom has some diamonds (4 of them) from my grandmother's ring (on my bio-dad's side) that she offered to let me have. So, Pete and I are going to use those and we're going to design our own rings before the wedding in the summer. My grandmother buys quite a bit of jewelry and has a jeweler that she uses fairly frequently down in Lincoln who will work with us. We'll basically design the rings and he'll create them. I'm excited about that part. Then it's DEFINITELY not going to match anyone else's ring, and it will mean even more since we design it together.
I'm rather nervous about telling the rest of the family. So far, only my parents and my sister know, and my aunt since my mom called her last night. But no one else knows yet. Guess that part is next.
I'm excited, though it doesn't all quite seem real yet......
Posted by Wendy on December 8, 2005 11:37 PM
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