April 8, 2011

While a client has to do a great deal of the work in the therapy process, there are a lot of thoughts on what a therapist can do to be helpful in therapy. Here are some things that the members of A Mind's Journey consider to make good therapists:

Our T has stuck with us for years. ...a lot of difficulties and she's never given up on us...a lot of obstacles and she's always worked with us to find a way around them.. she's been willing to learn along with us .

incredible patience....she is kind to everyone

firm, direct, yet gentle

she is good about checking in with parts that she hasnt spoken to in a long time

gives you insight but lets you think for yourself

A good one is one who can earn our trust because it's hard to trust anyone. It takes a lot of patience to work with DID people.

Posted by pilgrim at 7:03 PM | Comments (0)

While a client has to do a great deal of the work in the therapy process, there are a lot of thoughts on what a therapist can do to be helpful in therapy. Here are some things that the members of A Mind's Journey consider to make good therapists:

Our T has stuck with us for years. ...a lot of difficulties and she's never given up on us...a lot of obstacles and she's always worked with us to find a way around them.. she's been willing to learn along with us .

incredible patience....she is kind to everyone

firm, direct, yet gentle

she is good about checking in with parts that she hasnt spoken to in a long time

gives you insight but lets you think for yourself

A good one is one who can earn our trust because it's hard to trust anyone. It takes a lot of patience to work with DID people.

Posted by pilgrim at 7:03 PM | Comments (0)

April 14, 2011

Feeling like we're coming undone lately. Lots and lots of losses-- of people, of dreams we had, deaths in the family and things like that. Its been a hard couple months, and the past couple of weeks have been especially tough. Hard to get words out, and inside things have been unravelling. Our therapist has a lot of stuff going on, so therapy has been really unstable as far as times and meeting and all sorts of things. There isn't a lot we can say right now about that. But there are a lot of things up in the air, and its scary as all get out. We're so scared of losing our T, even though she says she will always talk to us. But the changes that have been going on in her life affect our life, and it just feels unstable and scary. Brings up a lot of abandonment issues and fears. And we so desperately need to be able to have some things to depend on, to have a safe place to go and to have a safe person, even if it is only twice a week for a few hours. We don't have that right now, and it feels awful. Jadie and Mae keep acting up, they have been upset constantly since Tuesday and we've been having trouble sleeping for a few weeks because we're so worried and upset about things. If you read this, and if you're a praying person, please pray that things will all work out for our therapist and that things will be all right for her, and for us. We can't stand losing another person.

Posted by pilgrim at 2:48 PM | Comments (0)

April 30, 2011

Having a really hard time the last month or so. There isn't a lot to say about it other than that its lousy. Our therapist has had a lot going on in her life and so she's had to change our appointment times around to different times, different days, and sometimes completely cancelling sessions. Then the past few days we haven't heard from her at all. It has been just impossible inside. We made the mistake of opening up to her about some really hard things the one night we got to meet with her, and boy was THAT the wrong can of worms to open up right before she'd be cancelling more sesions. Its stuff we just aren't able to deal with on our own. So mentally, things have gotten messy. The kids are losing trust in our T by the minute, the bully and Missy are convinced that we're being punished and should never have trusted her to begin with, and some of the little ones are convinced she's going to be just like Sharon and leave us forever.
The only good thing is that all this inside stuff going on has left us with a permanent stomach ache we've lost a little weight over being so worried and anxious all the time.
So things are hard right now. We are having to keep everything stuffed inside and its not much fun. We just miss our T and desperately need to get therapy back on a regular schedule.

Posted by pilgrim at 8:59 PM | Comments (0)