I think its getting better

I think its getting better now,this grief over missing Sharon, our old therapist.
I think we're passed a turning point now. There's something inside going on about it.
We miss her a little bit still. And not to say that we still wouldn't want to talk to her
and still wouldn't like to see her sometime to say a few things. But I think that now
we can see things for how they were. Sharon couldn't help us. She didn't know what she
was doing. She didn't have the skills in a LOT of areas. We also didn't agree with a lot of things she did and said for about 6 of the 7 years we saw her, but we were so afraid of losing that relationship with her that we didn't want to say anything. For instance, the 12 step program stuff, the meetings she had us go to, things like that-- they weren't right for us, and we disagreed with a lot of the things that happened. But, we didn't want to lose her, so we cooperated. We should have set boundaries, or just said no, or been brave enough to say something (well we did sometimes, but it got thrown back in our face, or she'd threaten to stop seeing us, things like that.) But we should have done other things. Anyway. THere was a lot of stuff she said and did that weren't working. But she didn't know how to help. The therapist we've been seeing has so many more skills and is so much better at what she does. The inside kids are making so much more progress now. That is what counts.

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