December 5, 2010

This movie stars Halle Berry as a woman with DID. It is set to come out in February.

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This movie stars Halle Berry as a woman with DID. It is set to come out in February.

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December 13, 2010

Right now there are seven hours until i get to my therapists office and i am just trying to make it until then.
This has been a tough month and this weekend has been the worst we have had in a long long time.
Since october things have been hard with working on memories and stuff.
Then this weekend i was stuck on the couch hecause my back hurt so bad i could hardly walk or move. As usual my husband was not there when i needed him because he was out helping other people. So i had no help around the house and tried to run the house from the couch. Doesnt work very well and i hurt sooooo bad.
People sometimes ask why dont i ask for help. What would be the point? There isnt any.
My back hurts so bad and i dont know what to do.
The flashbacks are kinda bad. This is a hard time of year for us plus there is some other stuff going on that we are really struggling with and dont k ow what to do about. Just feeling so very overwhelmed and wishing that for once, someone would come be our encourager, instead of Us being the one everyon e always comes to for help. Lately i dont have any answers anymore.

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December 14, 2010

on the internet there is a place where lots of people are talking about attachment and a place where lots of people are complaining about their therapists. but we dont have any complaints and we know that if you can manage to have a healthy attachment to someone (not some bizarre, unhealthy, twisted kind of thing) it can lead to a lot of good things.

claire wrote this (i fixed her typos) and i thought it was nice of her. maybe it can help some people.

this is what attached feels like.
We never felt attached to anyone ever. Til just the last few months.
Attached feels like warm, comfy. Like you can mostly count on someone, that you know they will do their best to help you out if they can. And even if they arent able to, they want to. Attached feels like you know they like you and love you and want the best for you and your life. That they want good things for you. That they dont gonna trick you or do bad things behind your back like other people. You know they dont think bad things about you. If you are sad or cry its ok with them. If you be mad its ok with them or if your are happy its ok. If you get mad at them its ok you can talk about it.h
Theyre safe with your feelings.
Thats what attached feel like. Its nice and not scary.

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December 18, 2010

A Child's Bill of Rights
I have a right to live rather than exist.

I have a right to personhood rather than being an object of possession.

I have a right to equality with every other human being regardless of age.

I have a right to be respected with regard to my own worth.

I have a right to be uniquely myself with my own identity.

I have a right to speak my thoughts and feelings, and to be heard.

I have a right to ask "why" and to receive answers.

I have a right to receive discipline without hollering, discounts and putdowns.

I have a right to be encouraged to grow to maturity at my own pace.

I have a right to be free from physical harm at the hands of resentful people.

I have a right to be loved for being me.

I have a right, with valid guidance, to think for myself, and make decisions.

I have a right to be responsible for myself.

I have a right to feel joy, happiness, sorrow, bereavement and pain.

I have a right to be a winner.

I have a right to care and be cared for, to nurture and be nurtured, to give and to receive.

I have a right to form my own convictions, beliefs and standards.

I have a right to know and experience personal freedom.

I have a right to my own body, mind and soul, and to use them in a sharing experience.

I have a right to recognize and accept the rights of others regarding their Bill of Rights.
©1975 Fred M. Fariss

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