Therapy shouldn't cause more PTSD
I feel likewe got thrown away. Like my old therapist threw us away. It would have been better if she would have just died. Then there would be a reason. But when she just gave up on me and didn't want to work with me anymore, its like, she's saying, "I DONT WANT YOU ANYMORE." Just like everyone else did who left me. She just doesnt want us.The kids are having such a hard time. She said that she would have a transition session with them so they could say goodbye to her.But then she changed her mind. And she won't call them or talk to them or even write to them. Its making things so much harder on us. It isn't just a goodbye. Its making them suffer. They're kids. Its making an ending to therapy end up into another case of PTSD. Making things worse. Its unethical and its wrong and I don't think she even cares.
And we loved her so much. The kids loved her so much. But she hurt them so much anyway.
We can't trust people. We're never going to trust anybody again. Not ever. Especially if the people who claimed to love us can hurt us this badly.
Posted by pilgrim | Filed under:
Dont' stop believeing.
Hang in there, Pilgrim!
I have been following your story, and am sorry for what you are going through with the loss of your therapist. Your strength is remarkable, and from what I have read, you are an amazing person that anybody would be priviliged to know!
What was her reason for not seeing you anymore?
I am a therapist and I am so saddened by your experience. People are not to be thrown away...they count! Accept my apology for all the therapists who don't have the courage to recognize the amazing courage people like you have!
I have been reading all of your old blog entries, to try and make some sense out of what Sharon did.
As a fellow therapist, I at first, thought there must be something very obvious that would jump out at me. I wanted to believe that her actions were altruistic.
What I am seeing though, is cruelty. A transistional meeting with the littles would have been of immense help and support. Truly...I am confused. I do want to believe that she was right and had your best interests at heart. Pilgrim...I dont know what to say, except I am sorry and wish things had been done differently.
just wanted to up a few of your affirmations for you. they are so well written and so WORTHY of who you DESERVE to be.
hang in there.
read them aloud because they are true!
.... I am strong enough to take care of the inside kids
.... I can control my thoughts and actions.
.... Taking care of myself is a good thing, even bubble baths and massages.
you ARE a good person. it is not fair to judge yourself by another person's failings. that is their issue. not yours.
i know that you miss sharon but as much as you do you can't go back. i don't think that the little kids would be able to trust her now. they would be constantly wondering when will she go again.
you have to look to the future. you have to look to someone new that you can connect with in therapy no matter how long it takes. it's a tough road to find someone but the person is out there.
i trust and believe.