You're preaching to the choir. The Real Me

Loneliness can kill you. I agree. I saw the same study and it blew me away how unhealthy loneliness is. It seems that I use to be so lonely that if I spent another second by myself I'd lose my mind. I couldn't do it anymore. I kept going IP and later I realized that it was because I needed to be with people. I needed that human contact. For years I wasn't as lonely as before and I guess I'm still not but last night I thought to myself, my God, I'm so lonely. I was a deep sadness that hit me then.
Internet friends are not the same thing as 3D friends. You cant go to the park with them. You can't go to a movie with them. You can't see them smile (unless you have a web cam) and you can't shop or hear one another laugh. It's just not the same. I understand where you're coming from.

smiles to you,
Austin

I'm a multiple too and understand (so well!) the loneliness of it. I've not told my family as not all of my parts are ready to "come out", and so I live my life as a fraud.

Maybe we could be friends? I can't afford therapy, and so there is no one to talk with about my DID.

Hi, it's me again. Just wanted to let you know that I got a link up to you on my blog--want to provide more info on dissociation and DID. I can relate to the loneliness. I hate feeling invisible. Strange, really. When I was little and being abused, that's all I wanted was to be invisible; to disappear. Now I hate it. Just another bind we've been forced into, I guess.

It is a lonely life for us multiples, one thing I've found helpful is "community" in the sense of finding people who are similar in their lives and you can be yourself with. I did this through my local church, that does have a "wholehearts" group that has been very helpful. One thing I found helpful is to try and keep control of your parts, I know when stressed, or when PTSD is operating this is difficult. However, it's not always the best to let child parts out and run things, this makes you all vulnerable. I hope your husband is understanding, his support is important. My wife is very supportive and helpful on my journey. God bless.

Further to my last, I believe strongly that lonliness is the greatest battle to overcome. Please be strong.

Thank you everyone for your kind comments.

That sums up pretty much how i feel as well. Even though I know people, my problem makes me have a hard time connecting with them more often than not. I tend to have inconsistent friends. They don't really last for more than a year. Even for my best friend, we tend to have breaks from our friendship. It pains me that I can never have anything even a little bit consistent. For me, as a result of that, I tend to shy away and become more introverted. yeah, I know how it feels to bottle it up somewhere.. And then just a tiny crack from mentioning a bit of it to someone made me all emo. It was difficult to express my feelings in the right way, but that was because I didn't want to admit even to myself that I was lonely. For me, I had no idea where to start, because the lonliness was destroying the passions that i had. If you have passion(or want to start one), keep doing it and find a group that will help you keep it alive!

-tchan

What do you mean by "multiple"? And i think it's amazing how easily people can hide their real emotions on lonieness. It kinda pissess me off because when you ask someone "what's wrong?"
they don't tell you the truth so you end up beleiving them that they are ok when they aren't. So you really can't help them if they don't tell you what's wrong! So therefore i am mad at myself!

What do you mean by "multiple"? And i think it's amazing how easily people can hide their real emotions on lonieness. It kinda pissess me off because when you ask someone "what's wrong?"
they don't tell you the truth so you end up beleiving them that they are ok when they aren't. So you really can't help them if they don't tell you what's wrong! So therefore i am mad at myself!

loneliness is the worst side effect of DID. As Aristotle defines in his treatise on ethics, no man can experience happiness without friends. I can walk around in this society day over day and never be acknowledged, I attend college and for the last couple semesters, I can only find interaction in the classroom even with a campus of 20,000 students. I just(9/6) turned 44, and even though I have 3 kids, 2 grandkids, both parents, and 2 siblings, none of them even called. It is not just that DID scares them away, it is like the abuse never stops. I have never had anything i could hold onto, anything to really call mine, i pray that the angels in heaven will come soon to take me home. i am so tired of being 'dim' while i see the interaction of peoples all around me. for those who have people in their life, be thankful, be caring, be involved, and be humble. this life is about learning to think of others before and as important as you think of yourself. my new golden rule is to be better to others than anyone has ever done unto you, the benefits will only grow and nurture happiness exponentially. Peace and Love abound, Damn loneliness to the depths of Hell, one embrace at a time!!!!