Goldfish crackers and the 5 year old's progress
Goldfish crackers are a big deal in our house.
We have to have them every day for a snack. Either for lunch or before bed, it doesn't matter. One of us likes the parmesagne flavor. One of us likes the pizza flavor. One of us likes the original cheddar flavor. Goldfish crackers are LOTS of fun, especially the rainbow ones. You can count them, divide them up by color, you can eat them in rainbow order or one color at a time (this is what you do when you don't have a social life; you sort your goldfish crackers by color.) Then of course, you can bite their heads or their tails off, and make up little dramas between the fish. This can take up a lot of time, just having snack.
Right now we are out of Goldfish.
And forgot to get some at the store.
Normally, this would have meant that the 5 year old begin to whine and complain and go quickly into panic-mode-- Somewhere along the lines of "but we always have goldfish and i have to have some and we have to go back now and get some because we dont have any and lets go get some we dnt have any i need my goldfish PLEASE i need them i cant have a different cracker it has to be goldfish it HAS to be PLEASE go get some PLEASE i dont want any other cracker it has to be goldfish!"
What can I say? We like routines. Routines and rituals keep us safe in this world.
Today, however... a sign of progress.
She told my husband this:
"We forgot to get goldfish.... but thats okay... I can eat the round crackers or the square crackers or the rectangle crackers for snack tonight instead, huh? It doesnt always HAVE to be goldfish, right?"
"Right."
"And thats ok, right?"
"Right."
"Ok."
(Only 4 years and a bazillion dollars worth of therapy to get her to to learn to cope with the situation of handling something different for snack).
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Pilgrim--
I'm so glad to hear about the progress! That's wonderful.
I like Goldfish crackers, too. The other night, my boyfriend and I ate a whole bag of the parmesean flavor. =) I hope things keep getting better.
Sarah.
Goldfish Crackers sound amazing :) I wish we had them in england.
Hey Pilgrim...
thats so cool about the crackers :)
i guess sometimes you don't realise the good things therapy can teach you until you are put into a situation where you need to apply them !
thats really great... hope you are ok and doing well, i'm thinking of you and praying for you honey...
Loads of love and hugs...
Kate...
(AMJ)
This post made me smile. When you were describing all the different things you could do with the goldfish, I completely understood what you were talking about. I can see other adults who would hear this and not understand but it makes perfect sense to me. I could feel my little ones inside smile as well and say, "hey, we do that too!!" Yet another one of those ways in which we share a brain! :-)
((Butterflyteam)) I was just imagining you and I getting together... and our 2 little 5 year olds coming out to have their snack with some goldgish crackers all by themselves... can you imagine how much time those 2 could waste between the 2 of them and a couple bags of the rainbow colored Goldfish? tee hee ;)
Oh please can mine join in too! This made me grin from ear to ear. *yay to Mae*
My Goldfish mouth disease and has a red eye and grey under the gills we used medicine and one of the fish died do you have advice if yes email me try to safe the fish. p.s We try to see if he is hungry but does seem to eat.
Hey, can we get her to talk to my husband? My Frank and I are as set in our routines and rituals and unsettled by deviations of what's 'normal' for us.
He's diabetic (Type I, since 3) and at night he has 14 single square Zesta original saltine crackers on 2 paper plates with peanut butter on them and a drop of Jelly on top, he is not happy if we are out of Zesta, pb, or j. He chases them with Cheeto's puffs, and 2 fun size Milky Way bars. then he knows his sugar won't drop and he'll be ok. He has GIANT Furry Kittens if he is out of any of this, or if I am not up to making the pbj crackers.....I just read this to him and he's cracking up, and it's True, it just is. Wow, for our 5yr old friend to accept new crackers, great, especially on the tail end of a really tough week!
When y'all come to AZ to visit, I'll be sure to have every Goldfish variety here for you!! :)
Hugs and Blessings, love Judy